20 years ago Tim Dowling and his wife embarked on a project so foolhardy, the prospect made them shudder. They agreed to get married - with the resigned determination of two people plotting to bury a body in the woods. Two decades on they are still together, still married and still, well, he hesitates to say happy, if only because its one of those absolute terms that life has taught him to deploy with caution. This is the story of how Tim ended up here, along with an examination of what it means to be a husband in the 21st century.